OMG, I can’t even begin to explain what is going on now……it all has to do with that club thing. I feel so much stress and discouragement.
Yesterday my H gave me such a hard time about taking our D to get registered in school. I couldn’t do it because I was at work. He said he couldn’t do it because he had a “club” thing going on. I got upset because it made me feel like he was putting the club first and our family second. I mustered enough courage to send an email to one of the guys in the club, whom I thought was a friend and I can trust. I told him about the events that were unfolding and how I thought my H was being blindsided by the club and asked him if it was the club that was telling him that everything came second. He replied with “he didn’t know what to say”. He called my H this morning and told him about my email. The following is the email I received from my H.
I don't understand how after 10yrs you still don't know me??? Or understand me??? I really don't know how you can say I put the club 1st. and family 2nd. I stopped hanging around the club and tried to make up to you by staying home. BUT I guess you didn't notice, didn't care, didn't want to acknowledge? Not sure but I guess I'll try to be like you (and not care). 1st of all it pisses me off that you would tell him that behind my back!!!! And 2nd it hurts me that you would say that!!! Based on 1 meeting right now I'm not sure what to do? Or what to think? Instinct tells me to leave and move on!!! But the mature adult and wise person that I am tells me to stay put and it's okay to be pissed about it and to let you know that what you said and did does not sit well with me. How frick'n dare you to accuse me of something that never happened!!! Obviously you don't know like you thought you did!!! Not sure there is a date night tonight. I'm just VERY Weirded out over all this crap because you said "you’re right you do need to be with your guy friends” and your actions and vibes are saying the opposite.
My H gave me the impression that he didn’t want to take his D. Below is my conversation that I had w/him yesterday over email….
Me) Hon, don't forget D’s registration tonight.
H) Depends what time cause the meeting starts at 7:30pm. I’m leaving at 5:45
Me) You have to be at the school no later than 5:30 PM
H) Then I can't go ‘cause I have to leave at 5:45
Me) Hon, I think your daughter is more important than a club meeting
H) O'right!!!!!!! F***K!!!!! and now I'm F***ING PISSED OFF as long as everybody F**KING knows!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YOU already knew I was going today nice ploy on your part THANKS!!!! EVERYBODY knew I did not want to go!!! It is not f**king necessary.... Fine and when it's over I'm outta here!!!!
Once he took our D, he calmed down and apologized for his behavior. I can honestly say that I am fed up with it!!! Right now I would like to go home and pack my bags and move out. I can’t think clearly and I think I need to break away from it.
I saw OM last night and while I didn’t’ have the 4th of July sparks, it was tempting……
