****He came back with "that's another way of you trying to control me"

Well that is obviously an issue with him. Nobody wants to feel controlled. However, I think at times that will be his excuse to get his way.

Again, at some point you are going to have to go out on a limb and trust him. If he breaks that trust.....well then the ball is in your court.

If he does not break that trust, then you are starting to build a new foundation.