JP....I am with Piper on this....talk to your H... ask if he could set some time aside for you and family on the weekends....let him know you want him to have fun with the club but that if he did this every weekend and with his free time you would miss him... then leave it to him to make the choice...
You can't make someone be with you....we already know that...and if you H views you as controlling and he feels that you are controlling his ability to have fun he will resent you....(btw, my H said I was controlling too....along with acting like his mother....so I can relate to you)....now if you allow him this time....and show him that you are happy with him when he is home and the you like to do fun things with him he just might feel ON HIS OWN that he WANTS to be with you more...the club might be an emotional escape for him right now....he might need that for a while....
Be patient....give him space....give him time to prove himself....give him time to earn your trust back....it will be hard for you but he needs to do this...and YOU need him to do it also...
