Well...you are acting like his mother....and yes he is going to resent it....I know because I did the same thing....you know sometimes they just have to fall down to realize what THEY need to do...
I understand your concern for your H's health...I really really do....you see my H was told almost 2 yrs. ago that he had diabetes...he didn't take it serious...kept telling me he was fine....that when HE was ready he would take care of it...
Well he finally went to the Dr. two weeks ago today...Dr. told him that if he is diabetic he is at risk of heart attack and stroke...H came out of the office and said the Dr. said my heart sounds fine....I am not going to have a heart attack....
Ok...at least he was getting his blood tested and agreed to a follow up visit in 2 weeks....well that 2 weeks was today but he didn't make his appointment....why?...he was in the hospital!!!...On Monday he agreed to drive me around and I left him doing a crossword puzzle in the car while I went in the bank....
I came out and he jumped out of the car and said he needed to go to the hospital....he began to tell me that he had a spell where he couldn't talk and couldn't write and his face felt weird...
I took him to the ER...we spend 7 hours there and they did all kinds of tests...they diagnosed it as a TIA....mini stroke!!!....I didn't say a word....he just had the crap scared out of him...but they gave him asperin...told him his blood pressure was really high and his blood sugar was too...he said he was going to the doctor on Wednesday...so we go get dinner...come out from dinner and I looked at him and he didn't look right....he started to talk and didn't sound right....I asked if it was happening again and he said he thought it was...back on the phone and heading to the car..
I get him in the car and start down the road...and again I hear him mumbling and not looking right....he confirmed it was another episode...both lasted a very short time...but scared me....I called the insurance to ask if I had to take him to the same hospital or if I should call an ambulance...I was 30 min from the contracting hospital and for 10 of those minutes my phone would be out of range of a tower....what to do???....they said to drive him...so I booked it...
Got him to the hospital and they admitted him...we just got home tonight....he is on medication for diabetes, blood clots, and is to follow up with his doctor on that and his blood pressure....
Guess what?...he is taking this serious...yes it was hard for me to wait for him to get with the program....it took a crisis to scare the hell out of him...
When they were first admitting him he asked me not to leave him...and yesterday he said he was glad I was staying there with him....sleeping in a chair by his bed...I told him I loved him and wouldn't be anywhere else...no matter what!
So....my point is....you may need to back off...your husband KNOWS how you feel...you can't MAKE him take his medicine correctly and he is going to show YOU THAT YOU CAN'T MAKE HIM...so the best thing you can do is drop it...if he gets hurt because of it that is HIS problem...
And incase you didn't know it....everyone is human and truth be known there are probably many things that the OM would do to equally irritate you in time....it would be like jumping from the frying pan to the fire...your better off working on your reaction to H's actions....stop being his mother...but be there when he really needs you...and with out words he will get the point!!!
