Jade too early too pat myself on the back. but i'm trying. don't be so hard on yourself, you're going through normal emotions and feelings after getting a swift kick in the jimmy. I think we have several staged to go through once they come back. I think mine was denial/ shock. then big time hurt, then some wicked anger and resentment.
we all handle these things differently and who is to say what we feel is wrong? I think in my rush to make it all go away i've ended up skipping around these stages.
I think this makes us take a whole different look at our life and situations. I dwell on this stuff way too much, but for now thats where i'm at. ask me tomorrow and i'll probably give you a different answer lol.