Wow Ford,

That's exactly how I feel too! I don't know if I can stay in a non trusting marriage. But, I am here, listening to what everyone has to say. I have been married for 9 years and in the 9 years, I have NEVER even thought twice about anyone else......until now. I met this guy at the grocery store where I frequent. I think he's interested in me and I certainly find it very appealing and very much needed for my ego. I keep telling my H that I need to feel special and I need to be wined and dined sometimes....but it doesn't happen. Yes, I know it's wrong to pursue someone else......but right now I am very upset with what he did. I don't trust him and I don't believe what he tells me. I don't know if I can live like this.

I'm hoping that this board can help me see things straight and help me make the right decisions about my marriage.

I am very hurt and dissapointed with his decision to cheat.