Your H probably said the same thing when he met his OW
If you pursue...no more bashing your H or feeling sorry for yourself.
****But why do I feel the way I do about this guy?
Beacuse you are lonely and probably vengeful. If I found out my W would have even dated OM while I was in the midst of my affair, I would be planning my evening with the OW right now instead of going home to my W tonight.
If you do get a divorce there will be plenty of "Big smiling men" for you. Don't get caught up into this one. Big smiles are a dime a dozen. It's not fair to you, your H or the Big smiler. Can you really be as selfish as your husband and fill your own hearts desires at the expense of everyone else?
If you do pursue, tell the Big Smiley that you are married. If this does not faze him, he is not a good person. If he is he will aplogize and leave. If you don't tell him you are building a relationship on a foundation of lies.
Best thing to do is throw his number away and don't go down the road your H did.
You need to think about all this and look in the mirror.
