JadePearl,

If you pursue, you are doing two things.

1) You have turned into your H

2) You have SLAMMED the door shut on your marriage.

Chances are you will not even love or marry this guy. You are putting him in a really tough spot too.

When/if your H finds out FORGET ANY chance of having the marriage you want with your husband.

****and only pursue if you know that your M is over for good.

I disagree, only pursue WHEN you are legally single.

DO NOT lower yourself to you H level.

You are lonely and confused. You are mad and frustrated. YOU do the right thing and throw that number away. If you don't, don't b^tch about your H.

I had a reason for my affair. Did that make it right??? NO

You have a reason to cheat on your H. Does that make it right???? NO