Hi Ellie,

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Well, gee, Hp, I'd say that's kinda what seems to be happening - Fizz reached the point where she started to think about life without him as an option, and he broke up with oW! Sometimes just the internal shift on the part of the LBS is enough to cause change.



I would like to think this is what's happening/happened, but I dont' know. I do know that I have been thinking a lot --lots and lots about what life could be like with out him....and come to the conclusion that it could have substantial perks. Maybe he senses this? dont know....I do know I am much much calmer, although still have hard times. dont' knwo if I posted this, but last weekend at one point when we were ml, I found myself letting my mind wander and thinking "I've had enough" (of the A, not ml) and to my horror, with out my thinking about it, heard myself say outloud very quietly "I'm leaving" ....h immediately said "what?"...i said "oh nothing" and changed the subject....but the next morning I woke up to him crawling back into bed fully dressed and saying "if you can be patient enough to give me two or maybe 3 more weeks I'll get this mess cleaned up and it will be just you and me again"...not sure if there's a connection???? my answer was calm then too...."that's what I want".

I HAVE to keep focused on the fianances and get it turned around, that must happen no matter what goes down between us. and, unfortunately, I'm gonna have to be the one to lead the way.

Gotta run, gotta get S and go to hosp. for diabetes ed/chck stuff.

been around awhile!