Quote: Ellie has written many times that once the LBS finally has had enough and that..change...happens in their heart, their spouse realizes it immediately and changes their course of action.
Well, gee, Hp, I'd say that's kinda what seems to be happening - Fizz reached the point where she started to think about life without him as an option, and he broke up with oW! Sometimes just the internal shift on the part of the LBS is enough to cause change.
And Fizz - love the part about your flirty email arriving at same time as OWs bitchy one. Proof again that it pays to make yourself look GOOD in comparison to OW. All too often, the nagging email is coming from the LBS while the flirty one from the OP - is it any wonder that approach doesn't work?
So Fizz - keep working on those financial goals - because even if things are absolutely fabulous with you and H, you'll be happier and have much better peace of mind in the future if you feel you have financial options.
As for the phone sex - worrisome, I agree, but I suspect it comes from the same place as the affair. I think a lot of men feel their libidos or sexual function starting to wane a little bit at this age, and they seem to be drawn to kinky stuff to compensate by increasing their arousal. He shouldn't be spending money on that stuff though when you guys are still in debt from his affair!!!
