Fizz,
OK I went back and did ALL the reading. I wish I would have done that before I posted last time.
You wanted my opinion you got it.
I think your H is playing you. He wants is both ways. He likes you chasing him and he likes the other woman doing the same. If some course of action does not change in you or him, I think you will still be posting on this board a year from now with the same complaints.
I'm not trying to be brutal or make you feel bad. It's just my thoughts.
Though my affair was brief (8 months) I did enjoy having two women "wanting" me. I was chasing after one (OW) and running from the other (W). It fed my ego. It took me a while to see how wrong and selfish I was being. If it was not for God, I would probably be in the same situation. Now when the OW chases after me...it just makes me ill.
For your own peace and happiness something has to change dramatically IMO ...either in you or your H.
I'm not saying your you are at fault. But you and your H and the OW are in a cylce. I do not see that cycle stopping without some kind of action taking place.
Take it with a grain of salt, but that is my take on your situation.
P.S. I owe you an apology for not reading your whole situation before I posted last time. That was a disservice to you. I am sorry.
