Quote: My gut feeling is this, Fizz - you need to start standing up for what YOU deserve. Not in an angry/sad, "why can't you behave" way, but in a calm, rational, detached "I'm a loving and faithful wife and I deserve better from you. If you're not capable of better, then I will move on and find better in my life. If you ARE capable then it would look like this: marriage counseling antidepressant therapy financial counseling
I am going to print this off, carry it with me, and read it until it is burnt into my brain.
interestingly, when we were discussing the financial issues that upset him I asked him if he would go to budgeting classes with me. I plan to go as soon as i can, gotta do diabetes ed classes first, not sure if I can handle two at once . His response was priceless, and really sums up a lot: "I didnt make the mess and I'm not going to clean it up"...WTF...words cant even describe. all these years and 2 kids and college and grad school, and he didnt make the mess so he's not gonna clean it up?
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