Sorry you are still going thru this....that being said, it appears that after 3 years the behavior of your DH, nothin' is gonna change unless YOU change. He seems to know that good ole Deb will always be there while I sow my wild oats with Monster...
As hard as it might be on you and your DS at first, enough is enough, IMHO, of course. I believe you have been patient enough. The sitch has been status quo too long. Deb - you are worth more that this. He doesn't respect your marriage, bucause YOU don't. You continue to allow him to live with you, and have an EA/PA with her, without any consequences what-so-ever. DB'ing can only get you so far...3 years later, time to make a change.
As far as your DS goes....imagine the example you are setting for him to see you allow his father to treat you in such a manner....yes, separation would be hard on him, but so is what he is witnessing now.
Deb, I just think someone needs to tell you from the outside looking in, that YOU NEED TO STAND UP TO THIS MAN AND STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. It's what Michelle calls "SETTING Boundaries". I think the reason you sound so down on yourself sometimes is that you know deep down that you are allowing this situation to go on and on and on....
We love you here and know that you don't deserve this...nobody does.
