(((((((DEB))))) So sorry to hear about your current sitch. I can imagine the intense feelings and emotions that is running through you know. "TALKING" now with H would be tainted with your emotions rather than your head. As our fellow DBers had advised, it would be good to be calm and have a clear head. I think a overnighter would help... You have given me a lot of hope and advice during the dark hours of my sitch, and I have to say that it did make a difference to me and my DBing efforts, and I am now going towards piecing my M together. I want to be here to lend you my support at this difficult time. Will be here to listen to you...