I feel very out of place posting in here; it's where we all hope to end up and I'm not there yet. I keep a thread in MLC.
I wanted to ask a question and see how everyone feels about this. My story is far too long to post details, so I'll sum up. Right now my H and I are getting a legal sep. and I'm moving a few hours away. We are very amicable, better now than we have been in the past year. He moved out a year ago, had an affair. It appears to be all over with; very dramatic stuff happened to my H. while involved with the ow.
Anyway, here is the thing. A lot of these men seem to come back home to their wives once they've ended the affair, (if they are ever going to come back at all). My H seems aware that he is in very depressed condition and not good at all to be living with me right now. He said, "That situation (with ow) is over, but I'm still not rushing right back."
So I'm wondering how common it is for a spouse to do this, to need this serious "alone" time even after the ow is out of the picture. It feels like it's a good thing, but I just don't know. Would appreciate any comments. Maybe someday I'll be lucky enough to join you here with a thread.
Hope
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
