Interesting interaction with W today. We dropped off our D5 to school today together. After that, my W told me that she needed me to do a favor for her, which I did because it wasn't inconvenient for me to accomodate her. I know, I know, NO is a complete sentence. I am getting closer to saying that more often. Read on.
After I took care of 3 appointments at 2 different properties, and was on my way back to the office to handle an interview for her, she called me to tell me that I am azazing. I said why do you say that? She said you accomplish so much during the day every day, you're amazing. I said thank you, that was very kind of you to say.
At this point, I am realizing that I am digging myself a hole today and in life by being so accomodating to HER needs. I decide today is a great day to work on detaching and saying NO. We sit in the same office and she was saying how hungry she is. Normally, I would ask her to go to lunch with me and I would pay. As much as it was enticing to ask her, I kept my mouth shut. I was actually proud of NOT doing something!
At one point, I walk in our office and W has MySpace.com open with OM's page on her screen and she is typing feverishly. I say nothing and don't react visibly or audibly. I do believe that Frank hit the nail on the head when he said she is acting like a teenager. Of course I don't have any idea what she was typing on his MySpace page. It's really not my business right now, so I didn't react and I didn't pry. I was quite proud of me for not letting her behavior get to me.
Later, she begins laying the groundwork to ask me to do another favor helping her with her job. I just told her that I had enough stuff to do handling MY responsibilities, which is true. She let it go and said she'd work it out. I let it go too. Witnessing her ability to handle her "issues" on her own makes me understand that she is resourceful, intelligent, powerful, and driven and that I have simply been enabling her, at my own expense, by doing the majority of what I have been doing FOR her.
I am getting smarter. I am hearing and seeing better. I am getting stronger. In the end, I will have a better me and a stronger, more loving R with our children at a minimum.
I decide today is a great day to work on detaching and saying NO. We sit in the same office and she was saying how hungry she is. Normally, I would ask her to go to lunch with me and I would pay. As much as it was enticing to ask her, I kept my mouth shut. I was actually proud of NOT doing something! 
