Quote: I hate know that, in my W's mind, that I and my treatment of my W IS the problem. So much for me knowing what the F I am doing. Clearly I don't.
you are correct. IN YOUR W's MIND is where this all lives. Not in the real world. IN her dream world.
Clearly you DO know what you are doing because you recognize everything you do and make plans to change it. You are way ahead of the gam HH, way ahead.
As far as the 'afraid of you' think. She is afraid of being JUDGED by you. Think about it. She knows in her heart that even though you'r A was wrong SHE is doing the same amount of wrong, or even more, because she flaunts it in front of her kids. There is a quiet place insode all of us where we can NOT lie to ourselves and she fears that place, not you. She's afraid YOU will say or do something that makes her visit that place.
A good healthy fear if you ask me.
Keep going man. stay doing exactly what you are doing.
