Quote: I the told her that I needed to tell her something that she may take as rude and abrupt. I told her that I AM the father of our children and I have an equal say in their upbringing. I told her that she would not tolerate me making unilateral decisions for our children and expecting her to abide by them and I don't appreciate her penchant for doing the same. I told her that I would not tolerate any further unilateral decisions by her. She told me that she understood my feelings and that what I said was neither rude nor abrupt. She said she would stop doing that. I told her that unfortunately her behavior had become so common that breaking the habit would probably be harder than she thought but I appreciated her willingness to work on changing and that I would pay close attention to her efforts and applaud her efforts to improve. I think she thought I was nuts for saying that.
Way to take charge and be Alpha Male. Strong and to the point. I like it.
Quote: W tells me that OM has been dating someone else the whole time that he has been dating W and she is really hurt. I tell her I am sorry that she is feeling hurt. It's tough to tread lightly and empathize with W for hurting but not say anything about empathizing with WHY she is hurting. W says we (she and OM) are finished. W then says what's wrong with me? I say that there is one person in this world who loves you more than he knows how to tell you. I told her I am sorry you hurt. I have never wanted you to hurt. She says she knows.
As they say: "Deja F*cking Vue!"
read this from my old thread, around 2/7/06 where she tells her dad 'it's over' with OM, then later when she has a breakdown. It's a pattern.
Quote: I was talking to my dad. He seems to be the ONLY one in my family that does not sit in judgment for taking a stand and doing all that I can to save my M and keep my family together. He tells me that my family saw how my W treated me during our M and they are only fixated on believing that I am blind to reality and that I deserve to be treated better. I tell my dad that I do see how I was treated. I am not blind nor delusional.
I'm glad to hear this. THE most important thing is going to be to keep your changes FOREVER. It is so easy to drop them It's a work in progress and when you are together again SHE has to be doing the work too.
You are becoming your authentic self, and it's leaking into every facet of your life. I'm reeling from all this! You da bomb!
