Ok, I am decidedly out of the loop, and Frank/Amy/others are doing a great job with you.
I can't help but get a feeling from the "convo" part of your last post. I may be way off from the recent rash of "take a stand" posting you have been doing but WTH, that's never stopped me before.
Quote: My response was, when you get out of the Jr. High, fantasyland make believe stage.
This sounds to me VERY judgmental. Sure, it's true, but there has to have been a better way to say the same thing. I suspect that this convo just kinda "gushed" from you so I am not faulting you so much as pointing out things ala "Monday morning quarterback". I am just wondering how hard it may be for you to take a stand without being condescending towards her, no matter how much she deserves it. Realize that ALL our wives/husbands DESERVE to be cussed at, verbally torn apart, emotionally ripped open, but we don't do that because we know how it feels and don't really want to be the instrument of someone else's pain.
Quote: When you figure out if you two are for real or playing house because I don't want our children playing house in you make believe world.
Again, maybe next time a less "holier-than-thou" way of stating this may work better.
HH, the REAL bottom line here is that you seem to be doing MUCH better with yourself and I don't know if it much matters how you are doing with her right now. You are getting your $hit together and that's great. I suppose my perspective is shaped a lot by some of my recent reading and lots of talk about compassion and empathy.
Keep working towards those PMA goals and as always, I wish you luck.
