More mind reading, but I'm pretty sure I am dead on.
Today, the children and I went to church, then back to my place to make lunches. We went to the zoo and the the local themed Fairytale park. My W called me to see if I would bring her a sandwich while she was working (it was on the way). I did that and then left to the zoo and park. My W called again and asked if I would stop at the office and bring her her work to her house when I dropped off the kids. I said I wasn't sure, but stopped off anyway, only to be told that she didn't make it to her Candlelight party b/c she said she and our son are getting sick and she is just going to go to bed when the children go down for the night. I told her our son's nose is running b/c he is teething, he is NOT sick. She tells me that she didn't need for me to got the office to get her work stuff. She didn't even make a phone call to me ahead of time to NOT waste my time, effort, and energy. No respect.
She asks me if I have plans for dinner and I tell her no. I am thinking that she is going to ask me to take them all to dinner or buy something and bring it over. That doesn't happen, at first. I hear Frank shouting in my ear, "Don't put yourself in her environment!!", and I am thinking of calling back and saying I won't be staying for dinner.
She calls back and says she doesn't have anything for dinner really and I say they can all come over to my place to eat and tell her what I can make. She says she wants steak. THAT is laughable. I always wanted steak and she would tell me she doesn't like steak and would never want it. NOW, with OM in the picture, she says she has changed her mind and now likes steak. I held myself back from ripping into her on this matter, and only said that's good, steak is good.
Before we had finished the call, OM called in and she said she had to go and would see me when I got to the house. I called to verify that I was not running into OM at the house, but she didn't interrupt her call to OM to take my call. Nice. I arrive at the house and she is in the garage on the phone and I hear, "You don't KNOW it's always going to be like that in the future." Then she goes in the house to avoid being overheard any furhter. I continue getting our chilren out of my car and take our son to her and tell her, "You need to get your son now." She is still on the phone have a tense discussion (still, I believe with OM). I carry our D5 into the house and lay her on her bed. I find my W on the back patio, engrossed in her convo and I knock on the sliding glass door window, smile and wave. She makes a minimal effort to get my attention and I don't look back. I wasn't going to sit there in her environment while she was engaged in a F-ing convo with OM. SHE invited ME to dinner. Sheesh. I just drove off and I still haven't heard from her and that was almost an hour ago.
The old me would be calling her and listening to the "beep" that she is on another call. The new me says be patient. Say nothing. Tomorrow, smile and wave.
This is going to sound mean and it is. I hope she is feeling terrible about carrying on an affair. A proper excuse for one does NOT exist. I hope her R in that A is unstable and makes her miserable too. What I won't do is add to her troubles by making snide comments, uncaring remarks, etc. I will distance myelf from her lovingly and BE strong; for me, for our children, and yes, even for her.
I have a bet with myself on when she will actually make contact with me. I am betting it will be at work tomorrow. No phone call tonight. Regardless, I'll just tell her that I felt uncomfortable being at her house for dinner tonight so I left and couldn't tell her because she was on the phone. Period. No more, no less.
I arrive at the house and she is in the garage on the phone and I hear, "You don't KNOW it's always going to be like that in the future." Then she goes in the house to avoid being overheard any furhter. I continue getting our chilren out of my car and take our son to her and tell her, "You need to get your son now." She is still on the phone have a tense discussion (still, I believe with OM). I carry our D5 into the house and lay her on her bed. I find my W on the back patio, engrossed in her convo and I knock on the sliding glass door window, smile and wave. She makes a minimal effort to get my attention and I don't look back. I wasn't going to sit there in her environment while she was engaged in a F-ing convo with OM. SHE invited ME to dinner. Sheesh. I just drove off and I still haven't heard from her and that was almost an hour ago.
