I can only address one point at the moment and that's going to be this one:
Quote: I seem to be boring you lately with my lack of "proper" DB/DRing.
Can you please remember that EVERYONE here is DBing in one form or the other and you are not the only one dealing with a mess?
You're not talking to a bunch of book smart pricey therapists here you are talking to people that are in the trenches AND GOING THROUGH the same sh*t you are.
I'm not posting much lately but it's NOT because you aren't doing it "properly".
It's because I'm trying to drag my own ass back up to the plate!