INTERESTING CONVERSATION BETWEEN W AND D5 TONIGHT!!
Tonight is my night with our children. Since I say goodnight to our D5 each night, I encourage D to call mommy to say goodnight when D is with me for the night. Anyway, D is talking to W on the phone and D begins grilling mommy on what mommy has been doing tonight after softball. Mommy tells her that she went to dinner with OM! (I suppose THAT doesn't cross the line b/c, at least D5 isn't being "mingled" with OM, per my request.) At this point, D is clearly agitated and begins asking mommy why she spends so much time with OM? She also tells mommy that she (D) needs mommy to break up with OM b/c mommy needs to spend time with D. D then askes mommny if she loves OM and is going to marry him? I can tell that mommy says he is a friend. D then starts chanting fire mommy, fire mommy; I don't want you to get married.
I am standing across the room hearing what D is saying and feeding my S. I didn't show any body language, but inside my head I was cringing and shaking my head, because I know that W will believe that I put D5 up to the questioning. I did not. My conversations about mommy with D are very boring and antiseptic, on purpose.
D goes on. D then talks about OM sleeping on daddy's side of the bed. D also says that the babysitter saw OM naked and was talking about our other neighbor across the street seeing OM in another compromising position.
I feel so bad for my D that her mommy is acting like a slutty school girl instead of a married woman with two children. I have read other sitches on this site where the children viewed mommy as acting like a teenager and not a responsible parent/adult. I know I can't save my wife from herself and her actions. I also know I can't be an apologist for my W to my D. I did talk to her about not being judgmental and explaining what judgmenet means.
Sidebar: mommy actually called around 8:20 PM and D was already bathed and on her way to bed. My W always harps on keeping our children on a schedule, and despite our talks and W's promises to follow the schedule, I am the only one who does so. W always has the children OUT an hour past their bedtime (and bedtime is after bathing and reading stroies). Oh, well, I can only clean my side of the street, right?
