Can you give us some more insight into the way you and W interacted up to a year ago, and in the beginning of the M?
You seem to say that she was belittling you all the time. Can you explain? And did she do this when dating? How did you end up marrying her if that's the case? A little history would be helpful.
HH, there is no way she will come back to the relationship with you until you can prove to yourself and to her that you don't F*&^ING need her to survive. You said you had a codependent relationship, well she needs to see you are past that before she will move an inch. Right now she sees you as a pathetic person she can walk all over because, well, you have been UNTIL NOW. When you break that spell on yourself and you DON'T feel like you need her she will get scared because the train is leaving and she want's to be on it!
You need to say NO more often. Use your words carefully and say very liitle but know that what you DO say has impact.
Words are powerful tools. Never ever react to anything she says. Always stop and think before you respond. Always. And remember that sometimes the best response is to smile and walk away.
