Quote: Nobody is making her do it. IF, as your MIL says, you have 'atoned' enough then I say your W is a total jerk who is selfish and immature.
Um, Frank, I THINK this is kinda what I was getting at in my post to Amy/you/HH/others reminding all of us where this thing started, with his W basically being an a-hole for the entire marriage, constantly threatening divorce, walking all over HH, etc. My point was that IF she continues this behavior then, well, then there will be some tough decisions for HH because while many of us have a usually "ok" WAS that is an a-hole because of an affair/MLC/whatever, HH's wife was (and of course we only have HIS side of the story) the a-hole in the R all along. I think HH is starting to realize that putting up with a-hole behavior should be the exception NOT the rule in his marriage. I, like him, fear she may not change.
He claims she's been looking for a "get out of marriage card" from day... well... at least day 2 and now is acting like she's gotten it via his affair.
This has always been a tough sitch because of those things, and unfortunately for HH, I think it may continue to be such for awhile.
Sorry HH, I think you are doing GREAT. I just wish your W would follow suit.
