Tonight I try reaching our D to tell her goodnight (our nightly ritual). I was unable to reach her so I left a message at the housse. My D calls me back at 9:00 PM and she is clearly upset. I tell her that I can tell that she is upset and ask her what is wrong? She tells me (still upset) that she needs to bathe and she will call me back when she is done. At 9:45 PM I try to reach her to say goodnight and find out what was upsetting her. No answer. I try several more times because I was worried and fianlly my W answers the phone and asks me why I am calling. Rhetorical question. She knows why.
I tell her I was calling D to say goodnight and find out why she was so upset earlier. My W says she has already gone to sleep and my W will see me in the morning. I ask my W, why D was she so upset earlier and W tells me she (W) forgot. I tell her that I am concerned about our D and would really like to know. My W tells me that it was so stupid that she can't even remember what the upset was about and W will see me tomorrow. I just say good night.
I am hurt and pissed off about my W's apparent lack of caring about our D, me or both of us. My W is so stuck in her selfish mode that it seems that no one has the ability to penetrate W's emotional barrier.
I will focus on caring for our children, but W is in the mode to make that difficult with her behavior e=when tour children are in her care and W won't share with me what is causing an upset in our children's lives and W tells me that she can't remember when I question her about an upset.
I feel like I am swimming upstream in dealing with my W and the current is growing stronger against me.
