I'm sorry I kind of lost track of you for a few days. I had your previous thread in my favorites and I didn't realize it had locked. Found you now!
I think you are doing great! It IS all about YOU finding your 'alpha male' and 'spanking' her as often as possible when she tries to manipulate you.
A couple thoughts. When she asks you if you are dating just say 'no, I take my marriage vows seriously and we are still married' and of course she will probably say something like 'Well you didn't whgen you were having your affair!' in which case you simply reply 'yes, and that was terribly wrong of me to do THEN just as it would be wrong for me to do it NOW'.
Now she has to apply that to her OWN life.
When she's 'flirting' with you I don't know if you are being 'firm' when you say 'I do not want to go to lunch with you' or other things. You know what I mean? End the conversation immediatly with "NO, I don't want to xxxx". Firm and decisive. Take all the wind out of her sails.
You're right about being consistent and predictable. That is the key to any relationship.
Keep it up!
p.s. send ma an e-mail and I'll send you some stuff to read.
