And Alex, the way your W responded to the Retro suggestion could not, realistically, have been better. Not the miracle we always hope for, but possibly one step towards it, ? Other workshops for personal growth can also help, even if focussed on just one person; as we know, R's are made up of people. I may go to another, just to tune up and clarify what I want and need. But that's not Retrovaille, which is geared for couples in trouble. The individual workshop I loved was called Essential Experience and may still be in Philadelphia, not sure. But I digress.
As far as forgiving your wife for a possible A, let's take one thing at a time....cross that bridge IF and when it comes. And it may not. So, stay focussed on what you DO have control over, and keep up the great work you are doing.
But just to say one thing pre-emptively, that might help you in the middle of the night when we get those bad nightmares, to get you through that sick feeling about your W with OM, here it is.
IF she is having a full fledged A with OM, she MUST NOT be sure about leaving, because she does Not act like someone madly in love with OM who feels nothing for you. She just does not fit that pattern. IF there is OM, and I don't get that vibe, she must only have her toe in the water. You are still the man she wants, in some form. keep in touch j-
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