I hadn't heard about Retrouvaille Retrouvaille and so I see there is a program in our area in November. I may well suggest this to my wife. Thank you. We did go through Engagement Encounter before we got married. and I kept our notebooks, so perhaps this fits better than you know. I suspect she will say no, but it is worth a try. Some of the quotes from people who have gone through the program echo words she has said to me.
Financially my wife will do okay without me, since for years she has had a full-time professional career with her own pension, although it costs more as a single than as a couple and financial matters are not her strong point and money worries are a part of who she is.
I think there is an OM in the picture behind the scenes acting as a catalyst, if nothing else, (she says no affair) but I do not know what R they actually have, but it is more than casual friends -- confidant is the word she did use months ago; if I had to guess, I think she very much wants to just be by herself because she has not moved in with the OM and because she is immersed in the freedom to do whatever she wants whenever, however, with no one else to deal with.
Quote: Good luck and try no to expect too much too soon.
By Virginia law, time is running out, so the calendar works against me. We've now been separated 7 months; if we cannot agree on a separation agreement by 12 months, the court will decide for us; if we can agree (having been separated for at least 6 months and no children), then a D will be granted if she wants it.
