Alex, how can she believe that kind of change could occur this fast? Of course she knows it'll take time and effort on both sides. She'll have to let you know what she wants/likes and take responsibility for expressing her needs to you. No two women are alike and men are not mind readers either.
Don't over react to the D mediation. Key in on the work mediation instead and I'll bet you a number of the couples attending those, end up NOT getting a d. Yes, I would prefer her asking you to go to Retrovaille or some other Marriage workshop (have you tried that?), but its' better than having 2 angry lawyers escalating everything...
Financially how will your wife do, without you? I know you don't want her to stay for those reasons, but whatever it takes to make them step back and think/THINK things out. As long as the end is that you stay M, happily.
Good luck and try no to expect too much too soon. If there is no OM, your chances are pretty darn good, especially since she listens to you and heard what you said enough to acknowlege it. Let it have time to sink in. Good luck, and check on the internet about M's encounters or workshops in your area. Some may not even require both partners.... j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
