You're a gentle soul but I think your wife is, too, so I think you are heading in the right direction with the work you are doing on yourself personally.
Evidence of too much "fire" can be found all over this board so you may be in a better position that most of us!
Just one more piece of advice, do not put any stock in the timeframes you will read about concerning MLC. Your wife has much insight into what is going on with her. Trust me on this: that is HALF the battle.
