It is very hard for me to share this, because as a man it is not what is supposed to be, but my W and I haven't had sex often in recent years, and I can't say our sex life has been great over the years of our marriage. It does seem to me that this is a major part of what she has given up on, and what she doesn't talk about...nor do I.
It is as if neither of us know how to deal with it.
Friends tell me to go date other woman and let her know, so she may find me more attractive and interesting, instead of "just waiting" for her as I GAL. But I suspect it is the sexual satisfaction that may be the problem we don't talk about. I have the feeling I can't sexually please her, the feeling of being evaluated, and I know that I don't know enough about how to do certain sexual things that a woman often likes.
Perhaps it is too late to cross that chasm now, since we are living apart. If we could do that, we could likely resolve any other issue between us, at least that's how it appears to me.
All this suddenly seems so huge and daunting and overwhelming to me right now...reconnecting would need to be not just emotional but sexual, and I don't know how that could possibly happen.
