There are many out there [and many of us start that way when this shock first hits] that are not yet strong and we are fighting and scrabbling for our relationship out of fear...how can we go on without, how can we survive...so many base thier happiness on the relationship rather than on themselves.
I think those outsiders see that and assume it of us too--until they talk to us and see differently.
You seem happy within yourself, and though there are no guarantees...I do believe quite strongly that it makes your chances better. And it makes it easier for those supporters when they see we're strong and making a decision out of love rather than need.
