As I have continued coping with my W separting, I have followed much of the strategy of D-B, but that often tests the patience of family and friends who don't understand why I just don't get angry and get on with the divorce.
They do not understand the way I am communicating with my W -- by not initiating the conversation/contact, by not bringing up the R to fix it or work on it and so on. They think I am being passive and afraid to confront the issues, but I remind them that my W refuses to have that conversation and until she is ready to do so, we can't have a conversation to reconcile. That drives them nuts and they get very impatient -- for me, channeling their own anger to me. I tell them this is very Zen-like and it is the only way, in addition to GAL and PMA, that I have a shot at saving my marriage.
Anyone have any words or ways of communicating this better, about how I am communicating with my W, so that family and friends can understand better and support me in doing this?
My W left in Feb and it's been 6 months now (which for many of you is a short time, but I experience it as a long time as do my family and friends). We have been married 18 years.
