Hi there, I'm one of those bad people that once things got better, I forgot about the boards. I don't remember when the last time I came back to post was, but it's been a while. There is hope. I too heard those dreadful words in early March. I won't go into details, but now I stand here, almost August, and my husband has moved back in, we're happy together and are actively working on improving things. I can't stress enough how much this forum and Michele's books helped me. Yes, I also went to counseling, but it didn't help me nearly as much as Divorce Busting did. It not only helped my marriage, but also helped me value myself and take care of me, for a change.