My H said those words 5 years ago when I was pregnant with our youngest child. We were separated for the last 5 months of my pregnancy and it was awful. He told me I was a terrible wife, that he never loved me, and that wanted a D. He had a girlfriend while we were separated, even. And yet, he came back and said to me that he always loved me and that he was just confused about his feelings because he was so depressed at the time.
Fast forward to now. 2 months ago, he said the same thing. "I love you, but I'm not in love with you." I immediately said, "This is your depression speaking, we've been through this before." And he said, "No, this is the real thing. I'm done with this. It's over and there's NO CHANCE." Now, two months later, he's saying there's a chance for us, and we're seeing more of each other, he's affectionate most of the time, and he's indicated that he loves me but that he cannot SAY it right now. (Whatever!) Anyhow, the point is that you cannot believe what WAS say. They are usually confused, depressed, or in the midst of an affair that has them befuddled beyond all reason.
