Hi everyone! It's been a long time since I've posted. My brief history is that the bomb happened 4 yrs. ago. We have a 5 yr. old and a 7 yr. old.
STBXH had an affair, moved out/moved back, etc... the past 2 yrs. he has officially had his own apt. We have a legal SA. His affair ended but for the past 8 months he has been dating someone. I have just recently found this out.
We remain friends for the kids sake. A few days ago though, STBXH blew it. He was suppose to bring the kids to a party, he wouldn't answer his phone, I found out he brought the kids around GF after we had decided to only do that if we had discussed it first. To give us the heads up before the kids start talking about it. He is always late and feels intitled to do whatever he wants. He is financially responsible so therefore, he acts as if I owe him something.
Anyway, I emailed him and told him I was sick of the dishonesty and lack of respect. I think we should contact each other via email only. We should stick to whatever child care plan we have on a weekly basis, NO exceptions.
Well, he didn't like that idea because he likes to go on last minute auditions. He wants to become a famous movie star!! His GF is a fellow actor of course who is also seperated from her husband.
Anyway, I have had enough. I really don't want anything to do with him. He wants to remain friends so he can ask me to watch the kids. Honestly though, I am still hurt that he can have a girlfriend and not have wanted to work on our marriage. It's the ultimate rejection. I know you all know exactly what I am feeling.
The way STBXH is with me: not trustworthy, dishonest, very private, spending time together was never a priority with him, etc... so NO he is not the kind of person you would want in your life but for the kids sake it is still very hard for me to not feel like things could have worked out if he had only wanted it too.
So, sorry for the length of this but what I am wanting to know is how should I proceed with my interactions with him? I want to "go dark" but not in a bitchy way, unless you think I should. I feel like for my own sanity I want as little to do with him as possible. He always lies, I am so tired of that and do not want to give him the opportunity to lie to me anymore or be dishonest anymore.
