EM, if you decide to go to the other house I think your d5 will be fine, as it is she witnesses and listens to her mother go nuts, you might actually see the situation better and count the pros and cons. If anything, being on your own might give you the peace of mind you need.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.