Hi EM - Sorry I haven't checked in for a bit. I have been up to my eyeballs in moving into my new digs.
I can't and won't blame you if you pressure the W about dropping the A. It is not a good DB'ing technique but you know best how you feel and whether or not "standing" is something you can do ad infinitum until your W comes out of the fog. It may take a while and people can only handle so much. I only hope the step-son's recent acting out will finally force your W to wake up and see things your way. A united front and approach to his problems can only help be a catalyst in helping you keep your marriage together. Best of luck to you!!!