Since we are still M, finances are joint, CA is a community property state.
I can totally relate to the Vegas trip. Is that something out of the MLC book????? After I found out about the PA, W told me she is going to Vegas w/Om. She will have the vacation she never had in her life. Those were probably the most difficult 6 weeks of my life.
Yesterday I wrote W email asking how she sees OR w/Om in it. She replied that she wants me to be patient and wait until she makes up her mind about her feelings towards Om and me. So basically leave it the way it is.
This morning she wanted to hug me and I was hesitant. I still don't want a M w/3 people. She got upset again and said I'm reaching out to you but you don't accept it. I told her as long as her heart is w/somebody else she is not really reaching out to me. W replied that she would be completely w/me if I weren't so upset and angry about the sitch. And I said I'm upset and angry b/c you have an A.
I was for months nice, upbeat, complimented her, while she was having an A. She even acknowledged my changes. But after I found out that she contacted Om again, and the way she did it, I was very upset.
Most of you her on the board probably think I should just DB again, be nice and let the A go it's way. I'm not capable of this anymore. I can't detach emotionally enough to do this. So I run out of energy. I realize my sitch is not so bad besides the A. I just can't get it out of my mind.
I don't want to be nice anymore while she is having an A. This morning she asked me again if she could drive my car. I told her maybe, if she packs up the cell phone Om gave her and ships it back to him. She got upset again.
And she probably will be upset tomorrow. Her BD. I still don't have a gift for her and don't know if I want to buy one.
Anybody here to get me back on the right track? Is this really worth fighting for? Where do you guys get the strength to do this (I'm not a religious person)?
