Talking about MLC and being unreasonable. Yesterday I told W how hurtful it is the way she treats me w/A, and acting not M towards coworkers and friends she makes online. I realize this is not DBing, but right now I don't care. I need a decision regarding Om. Anyway, she said she can see that this behaviour hurts me. So 10 min later she asks if she can take MY new car for a ride. I said no, I just told you that you are really hurting me and you don't care about me. Why should I give you something right now that you can have fun?
Again, I realize that this is totally against DB and can be seen as retaliation. Perhaps it is. She did go to the concert w/o me but w/people she met online. Although she did have a ticket for me and had already arranged for a babysitter. And I told her before she left that this really hurts me. She said she is sorry about that but she can't do anything about it. WTF, she can't? She plain doesn't WANT to.
Anyway, she didn't get the car and had a tantrum. WOW, have seen something like this only from my D5. It is amazing.
Later last night we talked about the whole sitch some more. W said that the R w/Om is no R, and certainly not an A. He is just somebody 'she cares about'. I told her that's the way she sees it, for me it was a PA and is now EA. I asked her if she can talk to her T about it. I also told her if that is the life she wants we will have to S again.
I'm done being a provider, babysitter, and the one to blame for everything.
Which brings me to another question. Fri is her BD. I'm not sure if I should give her a gift at all. I got something small for D5 to give her and a fairly neutral card. I know she expects a gift (she already hinted about a $500 purse). No way.
