Back together and piecing

[WCW]

EM, I understand your problem of trying to discipline a stepchild without support of bio parent. I've been thru the same sitch with H's 3 kids, two of whom came to live with us. Their mom didn't discipline them, she just wanted to be a good friend. H didn't want to cause controversy, he tries to avoid that at all costs. H and I renovated my home to accomodate his kids, blah blah blah, I gave my best effort to make them feel welcome, and I became the minority in my own place. The youngest son eventually went back to live with his bio mom. In the middle of the night he called from jail, wanted bail money, H finally got balls and said no, son stayed in jail for 3 days until someone else bailed him out. Seems that was what turned his life around, and now years later he seems to be a decent person. The oldest son tried very passively to manipulate H all during his years with us, and the night he was leaving for college and H was driving him there, it all came to a head. I sat in the middle of the yard while stepson screamed at me how I had done not one thing for him or to support him all the years he lived with us. H just stood and listened, said nothing. A year later, after stepson dropped out of college (I followed thru on what he thought, I DID quit supporting him), got his girlfriend pregnant and she quit college, they got married, they called us to come and get them off the east coast and they moved in with us for a while, it was pure hell all over again for me, dejavu except with a DIL now too, they saved money and moved out. Fast forward a couple more years, I received a letter from oldest stepson and DIL. They thanked me for everything I had done for them, apologized for how they treated me while they lived with me and H.

EM, no one can tell you what is the best thing to do right now. You can use caution and protect yourself, you can keep trying new and different and old and the same, you can make yourself dizzy going in circles. You already know you cannot control W or sS15, you can only try your hardest to make the best of the situation and protect yourself. I do understand that you are trying your best, that's what we all do. If official authorities are involved, try and keep them up to date with details and don't let them drop the ball so sS15 slips thru the cracks. These problems are bigger than you can handle without help and the potential is huge to get worse. Protect your family.