Quote: Probation officer told him he has to go to school and there will be random drug screens. He doesn't go to school and failed the drug screen. He still doesn't understand there will be consequences.
Then make consequences. Why isn't his probation officer on top of this? If he kicks the door or the refridgerator why don't you call the police or make him pay to get it fixed?
Quote: So how do I put my foot down? W will just throw me out again.
Ask a professional in your area. Get some ideas. That's what you can do. Give us more information, there are a lot of smart people on this board who may have some ideas
Quote: I'm getting upset as being blamed. Especially by you guys who don't know the past.
Ok GH, one thing I am not doing is 'blaming' you. I had a similar problem with disciplie and W so I'm not going to be the one to give you crap for the past. I'm calling you to task for the present.
I have seen too many people 'give up' on boys. They won't do that with a girl but they will with a boy.
If you think there is no hope for you to be able to influence this kid, then find out what you can do to get D5 out of there.
And it is very interesting that S15 and W seem to be cut from the same mold. Have you ever asked her WHY she doesn't want to discipline him? Is she afraid of him?
You're a good man. I know if theres anything you can do, you will do it.
