Can you press charges against him for destruction of property or something?
The reason I ask is because if you can get him in front of a judge for something other than possession or truancy, other sources of help will present themselves...it's that tough love thing and somebody's gotta do it or you'll lose this kid.
I know you realize you're in between a rock and a hard place. I wish I could tell you something that I knew would work.
Think seriously about pressing charges. It sounds harsh but it will open up other avenues you can take to get him cared for properly and keep the family safe in the meantime.
