Sorry frank, but you don't know the sitch. I can take care of business, but I can't show stepS15 the way. Tried for years. W interfered. He has never learned that there are consequences for behaviour. He yelled at his mom and she apologized. He broke somthing on purpose, W bought it new for him and apologized. He doesn't go to school, W is nice to him and offers him to get a tattoo.
W is mad at his T b/c T told W she needs to discipline him. He is in T for 1.5 years. Nothing changed.
Probation officer told him he has to go to school and there will be random drug screens. He doesn't go to school and failed the drug screen. He still doesn't understand there will be consequences.
I'm NOT going to let this happen to my D5. I will fight for her. But I can't fight for sS15. Like I can't do for my W what she has to figure out in her life, I can't tell him there will be reactions to his actions. He is at a point where he has to learn this on his own. Unfortunately it is kind of late for that now.
And quite honestly, I'm a little afraid when he is around D5. If he gets angry (and is on drugs) and kicks in a front door or smashes in a car windshield w/his fist, it is scary. I'm not afraid of a physical confrontation (I have a black belt in TaeKwonDo and experience in other martial arts), but I don't want one. And I don't want my D5 observing this either.
