Withdraw yourself from her. Go dark. Neutralize your interactions. In your mind, decide that she is not your wife and you will no longer be giving her any of YOURSELF.
I had to get to that point too, for different reasons, but it WAS hurting me too much to stay emotionally connected to W.
Be friendly, but not a friend. As my counselor said, 'treat her like you would any other person on this earth, and if you are religious do the 'what would Jesus do?' test with any interaction. As I like to say, "Just smile and wave boys, smile and wave". You really are not letting her see how it feels to have you NOT in her life. She only sses you as 'there', and as an irritant when you are telling her what she can and cannot do with OM. Think "Teenager".
Remember, she is your D's mother and you will always respect her, and care for her as necessary because of that.
However, she continues to FORFIET access to your heart. Deliberatly. It's her fault she is too weak to figure out how to deal with her life and her emotions.
Back off and take care of YOU. Get out of the house more. She has not earned you. Yet.
Maybe you'll get something out of my old thread HERE
Similar situation. W thinks she can have it all - a divorce, live good, and I'll always be there to support her while she plays the field of men.
