Quote: I'm almost certain if I asked her not to contact Om now she will choose him again. But on the other hand he is so sick that there is no PA possible. And it is a lond distance EA. W wanted to fly to him but did choose to stay w/me. She does write/email/call I'm not sure, but there is contact.
Can you care for D5 yourself? If so I would be inclined to tell her to go visit OM. Remove yourself from her life and she'll see what she has ahead of her.