Two points to clarify the sitch. After first learning about the A I moved out for about 5 months. It didn't make it any better. And I didn't see my D5 every day which depressed me even more.
During that time, actually about 2 weeks before she told me she wants to work on the M, I did ask her to choose. She chose Om and was VERY angry that I made her do that.
I'm almost certain if I asked her not to contact Om now she will choose him again. But on the other hand he is so sick that there is no PA possible. And it is a lond distance EA. W wanted to fly to him but did choose to stay w/me. She does write/email/call I'm not sure, but there is contact.
It seems in other sitches that it took a while for A to completetly go to no contact. I hope I'm at this place right now. I actually regretted moving out the first time, so right now I decided to hang in there even if it hurts so much.
Sometimes I feel as if I have to move out, but this happens usually after some discovery and when I'm angry and venting on this BB.
I also want to be around for D5. W is certainly in MLC, she said 2 days ago 'people tell me I look like I'm 28 (she turns 38 in a couple of weeks) and this is the last time I can live this age, I feel young.....' That's what make me afraid there will be another A. But she is already attached to 2 people so I don't know, it is probably just my paranoia.
If it would happen, I have to reconsider my sitch.
Otherwise I probably vent and scream here or in the car or...
And a different room is also no option.
Thanks again for your support. It helps incredibly.
