Hi EM - If you don't mind my asking, what is the MC saying to your W when she reveals her feelings and expounds on the OM? Do you get the impression that the MC working to help you guys restore your M by providing guidance, or does the MC just let everyone vent? It seems like you come away from these sessions without having received much help.
I know the W's wavering is very tough on you, but (Thank God) she is still with you. She is not out of the woods emotionally, and if she is in MLC as I believe her to be, it may be a while before the fog lifts. This stuff seems to take incredible patience. Don't give up hope.