Back together and piecing

[cat03]

don't let her drag you down, you know what you want, she doesn't thus she is confused and saying all sorts of nonsence. It has to be MLC, my H too reached a phase when he felt worthless and reached out to OP so he can feel worthwhile, he thought too much had gone on with us, that it was unfixable, I kept telling him "everything has a solution" he'd also say he didnt' think he could bear to work hard to rebuild us, I kept telling him it would be worth it, that we had invested so much in each other, that there is always hope (if I had a dime for everytime I had to say this to him over and over again!)

I know it hurts, my H confesed to C weeks later after he came back that he came back thinking he'd feel better but he didn't (ouch) we ML and he later told me it didnt' feel the same (double ouch). It has gotten better, it gets better, trust me, I'm pretty sure my H's depression lifted since he's back.
Your W needs time, it is a slow process of them finding out what is real. I totally agree with the above post above OM "accepting her the way she is". It is a new person w/no history w/her , of course she is going to feel all is well and rosy, as with anything new and unknown.

Hang in there, it is true that there is a while when they aren't ready for any R, they are just too lost (at about that stage my H was w/OP) they are trying to drown their sorrows into a new R, but it won't last long, it was a matter of time before OP got pissed off at my H for the same thigns he did to me, and he realized "hey, it's me! it wasn't my W all the time!"

Be strong, detach, she's got scrambled eggs for brains now, you are stronger than that, hang on.