hey there, welcome. First of all , lower your expectations from her, not your hope, but the instant "all is well" ideal we have when we come back w/our Ss.
Yes, I also have major trust issues and still, to my shame, check on stuff now and then to make sure my H hasn't contact the FF he had an EA with. It is a leap of faith, but we both have to let go of our fear, fear will doom us, l am currently trying to change my train of thought, from scenarios of me meeting OW, to what I'd do if I would've found them together, yada yada. Instead I'm trying to think of positive aspects, how can I make our home more inviting to him, how can I act as the person I've learned to be and not to fall back into old bad habits.
Well, the good news is that our spouses are back with us, the hard work continues, let's not fall into the old routine again huh?
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
